Planning for Growth: Self Care Plans

They succeed instinctively because they each know their own temp and recognize it in the individuals and institutions with who they collaborate.” T.D. Jakes

Bishop T.D. Jakes wrote a book on instincts to enlighten the world about tapping into their inner being and living instinctively. The word “instinct” sends our minds to the animal kingdom but humans have natural instincts too.  Animals rely on their instincts for survival or else they become prey for predators. It’s something that occurs naturally and is not taught. Using your instincts is crucial to establishing a good self care plan.

Do you know yourself well enough to live by instincts? Living by instinct requires you to trust that little voice inside. This occurs when you take time to learn yourself as an individual. Intimately knowing self is the core of self-love and self-care. Proper self-care and self-nurture leads to growth. You make time for everyone except self, which stagnates individual instinctive growth.

Your instincts are at the core of your being, your spirit, your gut, your third eye, your chakras, your internal compass. Learning who you are instinctively takes time which means you will need to allow more time for self. Instinctive growth helps you tap into your core, and learn who you are, what you are naturally good at, what you are passionate about, and, how you learn, how you fall, your strengths, your weak areas, and more.  Use the information you discover to create your self-care plan so you can grow instinctively.

Instinctive Growth & Self Care Plans

Instinctive growth involves listening to your inner being to move along the path of self-care. How does one grow instinctively? It requires being in sync with yourself, God (Universe, Higher Power), your environments, your relationships, and your purpose.

The process of instinctive growth includes:

  1. Growing from the inner being outwardly
  2. Adopting or working from a growth mindset
  3. Recognizing constant growth within you
  4. Seeking opportunities to grow

Use stagnation as a tool to measure and review areas in your life for possible pruning. When you are in tune with your instincts you will recognize when you  need to establish boundaries, which helps develop self-discipline.

Path to Purpose and Self Care Plans

The path begins with a decision. A decision to live on purpose, thus making self-care your first priority. Do you believe there is more you could be doing, desire more peace, joy, and fulfillment? If yes, then you are ready to begin your journey, your path to purpose. But this realization also comes with the acceptance that self-care and purpose can be overwhelming, so where do you start?

Great! You decided to move forward with purpose and self-care. Next, learn what it means to live on purpose, how it relates to your inner being, how purpose influences your instinctive growth, and how to use everything you discover as growth steps in your self-care plan. Establishing your path to purpose will touch all aspects of your life through your growth steps, which allows you to implement a self-care plan that fuels your instinctive growth.

Learning to Grow Instinctively

You are born with an instinct towards purpose but may not know how to take hold of it. That’s where growth is necessary. Learning who you are is the first growth step to in your self-care plan. Which may require a fresh start in some areas. You have to open yourself to learning self much like a baby learns self.

For example, babies rely on their instincts for survival and self-discovery. In their first year of life, they discover self first through their five senses. They discover their body through taste and touch, they discover their voice through hearing and speaking and eventually they discover they can move their body on their own, they can sit, then stand, then walk, then run, then talk, and it goes on and on.

Once they have discovered all their natural abilities as a youngster, they are nurtured by their parents, their environment, and they grow! They receive input from their parents, their environments, their connections to people, and their inner self.

But what happens if the child doesn’t grow in this natural process? They become adults with incomplete foundations who don’t know how to nurture and care for self, much less others. As a result, they continue to grow physically but may be stagnated emotionally or spiritually. Your childhood growth pattern determines the path to purpose and self-care.

Growth Step #1: Go back to the basics. Rely on your inner self to learn who you are and use what you discover to grow instinctively.

The Growth Formula

The Growth Formula is designed to assist you with establishing a path to purpose and self-care plan. It involves your whole being and tapping into all resources including your Spirit (God, Universe, Higher Power), your Instincts (Self), and your Focus (Mind). So all are needed because each one brings a different perspective, tool, guidance, and power to your path.

Spirit + Instincts + Focus = Purpose (Growth)

Following this growth formula will fuel you on your path to purpose. It teaches you how to use all your resources to reach your goals. Once you discover your individual design, you will begin to see which resources yield the most return for you.

Realizing the importance of growing daily, where you are stagnate, and what is involved in each part of the Growth Formula is the first step in accomplishing growth and starting a self-care plan. The graphic below shows the Circle of Purpose and how each part of you relates holistically to your path to purpose and self-care. Establishing a path to purpose is the first step in implementing your self-care plan.

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Finally, if you are still breathing then you are still growing and living on purpose. Therefore, to accomplish growth you will need to understand how spirituality, instincts, focus, and your mindset contribute to your growth and self-care. Everyday should be an opportunity to practice self-care, it should become like air, you need it to survive.

Contact coach Athena to receive your self-care assessment and planning tool which is designed to help you establish a starting point in your self-care journey.


Day 23 – Cycle of Failure Starts with Guilt

The Cycle of Failure starts with guilt. Guilt is defined as feelings of culpability esp. for imagined offenses or from a sense of inadequacy[1]. We all make poor choices and mistakes that lead to a sense of inadequacy. Especially when we seem to repeat these choices. I have an exercise that I use with my support group that helps them to discover the root of why you repeat poor choices. My lesson is called Uncovering the Truth and it is based and excerpt called The Story of the Pit from the book A Jewel in His Crown by Priscilla Shirer.

Chapter One

I walk down the street
There’s a deep hole in the sidewalk
I fall in
It’s not my fault
It takes a long time to get out

Chapter Two

I walk down the same street
There’s a deep hole in the sidewalk
I see it there
I still fall in
It’s not my fault
It takes a long time to get out

Chapter Three

I walk down the same street
There’s a deep hole in the sidewalk
I pretend I don’t see it
I fall in
I must be a victim
It takes forever to get out

By the time you reach chapter three, guilt has set in and becomes your new roommate. You clearly realize there is something wrong. Repeatedly walking down this same street and ending up with the same results has begun to make you feel inadequate “I must be a victim.” However, we are all imperfect humans, not all victims and we have to learn from our mistakes. But now you have feelings of resentment and are not able to forgive yourself for repeating this same behavior. The inability to forgive makes the guilt rise and leads to anger.

If you are at this point in the cycle use this prayer today to conquer unforgiveness.

Heavenly Father,

I forgive (enter the name of the person, including yourself) for anything wrong he or she (I) has ever done or said, any unforgiveness or grudges toward me or my family that (enter the same name, including yourself) has at this time and I bless (enter same name) in the Name of Jesus Christ. I ask you Father to forgive and bless (enter same name) in the Name of Jesus Christ. Father show him or her (me) Your mercy and loving-kindness, and teach him or her (me).

In Jesus Name I claim this victory today according to John 14:14.

Amen


[1] Merriam-Webster’s Collegiate Dictionary Tenth Edition. 2001

Day Fifteen – Focus is a Key to Success

Today I attended a webinar on Web Analytics. It was boring, can’t really say that I learned anything other than all of the acronyms that are used when talking about analyzing web data. But it did spark something for me to consider for the business. I do need to track and analyze the traffic data from all of my websites. But recently I have really taken on too much, thus my focus has shifted and I now feel like I am missing some things.

Focus on Immediate Needs

I have taken on something new without making sure that the things I had already started are completed and today I felt that pressure. I decided that next year I will need to get some help if I am going to accomplish my goals. So I started looking for a Virtual Assistant. But during that process my focus shifted from what I was working on to a future need. Then it all became too big and overwhelming.

Focus means, “to concentrate attention or effort.”[1] In order to meet your goals and be successful, you need to be able to focus and not allow your focus shift towards things that are not related to your immediate goals. Yes, hiring a Virtual Assistant is related to my business goals, but it is not an immediate goal. It is a mid-term goal, which means it will not happen for another 3 to 6 months. The more immediate goals need to be accomplished within a one-month period. Therefore my focus should remain on them.

Getting Off Track

When you get off track and allow your focus to shift towards longer terms goals your task can seem overwhelming thus leading to confusion and anxiety. So goals should be attainable and manageable. For example what I am working on right now is an immediate goal because I need to use it this week, however it will benefit my business on a larger scale on a longer term as well. Therefore it has a bigger picture but a more immediate need. Versus the need for the Virtual Assistant, which right now I am handling things on my own. However I realized today that as I get more clients, my time spent doing administrative and operational tasks will diminish. The bigger picture shows that I will need an assistant but the need is not immediate. Therefore it is not something that needs my immediate focus.

So how do we stay focused on our immediate tasks? I have a dry erase board that lists only the immediate business tasks, projects or clients that I am focused on. Therefore these things are what usually get my focus. When I was shifted today, I did not immediately go back to what I was working on. So I took a break. I stepped away from all of it and cleared my mind so that I could get back on track. When I came back I was able to set aside the search for a Virtual Assistant and pick up where my focus should have been.

Distractions will come so you should expect them. But you need to have something that will jolt you back to your focus. Sometimes it is helpful to write out your immediate goals and post them somewhere visible so that you can quickly refer to them. Find what works for you but you need to stay focused in order to succeed.


[1] Merriam-Webster’s Collegiate Dictionary Tenth Edition. 2001

Day Six – A Day of Rest

Do you know I have always been my own coach and I push myself? But I never knew how to unwind and just rest. I would push myself to exhaustion; I guess sometimes I still do, based upon what happened yesterday. 🙂

But about a year ago I started to take a day of rest. I adopted Saturdays as my day of rest. It is my day to do whatever I want, I don’t serve others on this day. I don’t cook and if I want to stay in bed and watch TV that is what I do.

In the beginning my family would continue to ask me what was for dinner and I would have to remind them that it is Saturday, my day of rest. Now, my children never starve, my two boys are old enough to cook for themselves and I still take care of my little one. But it is really a day of rest for me. I have found that it is a much-needed rest. Sometimes I get bored and get tempted to open my laptop but I don’t.

When I wake up Sunday morning, I am refreshed and ready to begin my new week. I get my word in the morning from my Pastor and then I go about my day to prepare for the upcoming week. Sunday is a big cooking day for me. I always like to have a nice dinner on Sundays and I bake the kids a treat.

Take a day of rest and refresh yourself, God did. You are not going to lose anything by taking a day of rest.

See you on day seven.