Living on Purpose: Jia Jiang
Jia placed himself in purposeful situations where he would be rejected in an effort to combat his fear of rejection. He used this to empower himself due to his destiny and purpose to be an entrepreneur.
In return he learns some valuable life lessons from his experiment using rejection therapy about the power of rejection.
Thank you for living on purpose Jia.
The path to success begins with letting go of past hurts and failures. This is my third time starting up a business. My first attempt was a full-time partnership that did not succeed and the second one was successful as a part-time venture. But now I am launching a full-time business again and I could dwell upon my previous unsuccessful business but instead I chose not to. I dealt with the reasons the business was unsuccessful, learned what I could from it and moved on.
But I have not done that so quickly in all areas of my life. I have found myself locked into this cycle where I would go through guilt, anger, fear and depression. I stayed locked in the cycle for many years feeling unworthy and depressed most of the time. It kept me from moving forward in so many areas. But I began to deal with the cycle and learned how to break out of it.
The Cycle of Failure
I call this the Cycle of Failure and it can keep you from moving forward into the freedom of success that exists for you. That is the freedom from bondage, from bad habits, from repeated bad relationships, from poor decision-making and from insecurity. I call it the Cycle of Failure because each time you complete the cycle and start it again you fail. The cycle does not lead to success it leads to insanity. Insanity can be defined as repeating the same thing over and over again expecting a different result each time. This is the Cycle of Failure and it can be applied to many areas of your life both personal and professional. Maybe your career has suffered or you have recently found yourself without a job and began this cycle as a result of that. Maybe you have ended a relationship that is similar to one you ended several years ago. Whatever it is you have begun to recognize a pattern and have probably asked is this DeJa Vu?
Since this is a long piece I will break down the Cycle of Failure over several posts. For today I leave you with this prayer to help you begin to identify your Cycle of Failure and cast out the Spirit of Error and bring forth the Spirit of Truth.
I thank you for allowing me another opportunity to speak with you. I pray that you forgive me for my shortcomings, open my eyes to see my Cycle of Failure and allow the Holy Spirit to assist me with the binding of the Spirit of Error that has followed my life.
Strongman called Spirit of Error, I bind you in the Name of Jesus Christ and declare that all of your works, roots, fruits, tentacles, links, and spirits, are dead works in my life including (specifically name those things/people). I bind you and loose you from me today to go wherever Jesus Christ sends you and command you not to come back into our presence again.
I ask you Heavenly Father to loose into my life today the Spirit of Truth according to 1 John 4:6 and Psalms 51:10.
In Jesus Name I claim this victory today according to John 14:14.
I love Fridays because I can reflect on my week and can finally rest. I had a good week. I get so excited about my business. I learn something new everyday. I love being a coach and helping people succeed.
This week I met all of my goals except one. I am stuck in one area and that is not good. But I will get back on track. I have to reset the goal for myself and assign a new completion date. I may need to have someone hold me accountable this time. It is harder with this one thing because it is not something I really want to do but need to do. So my discipline is low with it. I don’t need anyone to hold me accountable for finding new products for my business because I am passionate about that and can do that in my sleep.
But this goal is not like that it is a practical one that needs to be done and does not illicit the same passion. But I will get it done because I committed to doing it. Commitment is a big deal, if you cannot commit to anything you will not achieve the level of success you deserve. You may continuously start things but rarely finish.
I used to be that way; I always liked the excitement of starting new things but would quit when I lost interest or when it got hard. But I realized that I had missed so many good things in my life due to lack of commitment. Therefore I had to make some changes. Today my commitment record is much better. I have seen my way through some difficult situations that I really wanted to back away from. But I saw it through to completion and learned from the experience.
Thanks for taking this journey with me. I have learned so much in the first 12 days.
It’s a new season, it’s a new day and it is time to get to work. My pastor preached about a week ago that God was going to accelerate your process. He said to activate those things that you had planned to implement on January 1, 2011 in December.
My plans for 2011 involve taking the business to the next level. 2010 was about planning and set up. Now it is time to make some money and do business. Therefore I will focus more on marketing. This journey is part of my jump start into my season of success.
Today I received an email to advertise in a trade magazine that will publish their yearly directory in January. I need to have my business in that issue, therefore I will be working on getting that done now instead of next year. It is all about positioning and being prepared to take advantage of opportunities.
Pay attention and get your things in order. There will be many opportunities coming your way, if you fail to use this extra time to prepare, you will miss out on your season of success.
Wow we have completed the first week of 40 days to success! As I reflect back on the past week, I celebrate this first success in the journey. Although I got off track, I finished the week. I made it across the finish line. (Don’t you here the crowd cheering?)
Yesterday I had a conversation with a close friend. We have walked a similar journey in some areas of our lives. As we were reflecting we wondered why we kept repeating some patterns especially the part about moving quite frequently. Moving so much makes me feel incomplete, like I have no place to be. I have learned in my journey with God that when we have to repeat things over and over it means we did not complete the task the way he intended.
Walking in Circles
He allowed the Israelites to wander in the wilderness for 40 years for disobedience (not doing things his way). Imagine walking around the same mountain for 40 years. I wonder if any of them questioned God to find out what they had to do to stop walking in circles? Well when I find myself walking in circles, repeating the same thing two times, (okay maybe its more than twice) I begin to ask questions. I begin to examine my choices and steps to see if they are in line with the plan.
I have been in this place far too many times in the past seven years. It is an uncomfortable place for me, therefore each time that I am here I rush to get out of it. Only it is a temporary fix and then I find myself back here again. This time I have decided to do something different. I am walking the straight path towards God’s promise and plan for my life.
The Straight and Narrow Path
God intends for me to live a life of commitment and stability. He wants my commitment to him and his plan for my life, which will bring about stability. This is a straight and narrow path that leads only to God. But I have been so focused on doing it my way, to hurry up and get out of the uncomfortable place, that I keep ending up walking in circles. But that uncomfortable place can be a place of growth and propel you into your permanent placement, but with growth comes pain and sacrifice. I don’t know too many people who welcome either.
This time I have committed myself to this process. I am not rushing to get out this time. I will walk out this time and never return to this path again. I have also verbally spoken this into existence, it has happened in other areas of my life and true to my word I never walked in those circles again. Therefore I declare today that I will step off the path of moving constantly and commit myself to God’s process towards stability. This is the last year my children and I will live with relatives and friends. Going forward we will have our own and declare that we will always have a place to be as long as we walk the path with God.
Guess what happened today I fell asleep before I was able to write about day five. I have been working so hard this week to stay on my schedule. Writing each post at almost midnight and getting up at 5:30 a.m. to start my day. By Friday evening I was exhausted and fell asleep early before completing my post.
But I must stay true to what I started and complete the post even if it’s late. Today was a refreshing day and the perfect end to the week. I am a Life Coach and God has blessed me with a gift to help people succeed. It gives me such joy to know that someone’s life will change for the better after experiencing coaching.
I sent out a letter to the top 100 friends and associates in my life and asked them to help support this vision God has given me for coaching. There are many people who need the services I provide and I want to get the word out to as many people as I can. It is time to empower people to excel.
I have also decided as a Christmas gift I am giving away 10 Time to Soar coaching packages. I believe in sowing seeds into people’s lives. So beginning in January 2011 ten people will begin a journey that will take them to heights that they have never been before.
While there is still LIFE there is HOPE. If you are still breathing it is not too late to empower someone today or to allow someone else to empower you. Don’t be afraid to give and sow into others.
See you on day six.
I want to share with you about how I got here. I had a good job making money I never thought I would make. Although I hated the job, I liked the status that came with it. Well I got laid off in December 2009. There I was with rent in the amount of $1560 per month, three kids and unemployment of $1612 per month. You do the math, how much was left over?
Realizing that another job was not coming as quickly as I thought I went back to my business. I started my business ten years ago and operated it on a part-time basis for eight years. When I got the job I let my business go. To make matters worse I lost all of my personal and business web sites the same month I was laid off. So now I had to resurrect my business totally from scratch. No web sites, no clients and no money. I found myself slowly coming into a renewed passion. I was getting excited about being in business again. I had absolutely nothing to lose.
So I made the most of my free time. Between job searches I completed training as a Life Coach and rebuilt my business web sites. As of this week all but one of my web sites has been completely rebuilt. That is major progress. I managed to recreate my business with a new look, a new location and new services.
When I first took this on I did not really think about what success would be for me. At that point I thought success would be my ability to make a decent living from my business, so that I would not be laid off again. But almost a year later, I am finally able to define my success. Not just define it but see it. My initial vision is based upon short-term goals that will lay the foundation for the long-term success that will follow.
Dictionary.com defines success as “the favorable or prosperous termination of attempts or endeavors.” Termination sounds so final but my son said it so simply. He said success is finishing what you started. Simple but profound, sometimes we try to measure success monetarily or materially and we may see failure. But this has been a successful year for me because I finished what I started. I am up and running and ready to do business. My first book is ready to be published.
My definition of success is not about money or material things. Success is walking in abundance, peace and prosperity in all areas of life. In order for me to do that I must finish what I started. More specifically this is my vision of success.
My success involves a life free of debt, a prosperous business that provides a comfortable lifestyle for me and my children and a home that we own, in a neighborhood of our choice, that will allow us to have stability. Success has me working in ministry to give back what God gave to me so abundantly. My financial success will come through my gifts in writing, coaching and business. Success means pushing past the fears and doing it anyway. Success means my children are at peace, settled, happy and reaching for their own success. Success means I am divorced and free to embrace my future to build a new life and make new paths.
The reality of this vision is that all of these things are within my reach. They involve me finishing some of the old stuff so that it can finally be tucked away to make room for the new.
I decided to write this because I am embarking on a challenging journey. I was asked to write what success looks like for me. This exercise was supposed to help me develop a plan of action to make it a reality. Something is keeping me from stepping into my successful life. What is it?
It is fear, as you will also learn about me fear has always been present in my life. In my earlier years fear immobilized me and kept me from pursuing things that were dear to my heart. One of biggest fears was the fear of success. But I have overcome so many of my fears. So why is it an issue now? It may be because there is so much at stake right now. As a professional life coach I encourage my clients to move past their fears to meet their goals. So there is much at stake here. I don’t believe in just telling people how to do things, I like to share by experience.
This journey is about my life, about realizing some longtime dreams and finally living the life I was destined to live. It means leaving so much and so many behind. It means walking into things I am not used to. That is what the fear is about, fear of the unknown. But my greatest fear is not taking the steps because then I will be stuck. Stuck in an existence that is not fulfilling.
So I decided to take you on my journey. This new journey is not predefined, not scripted, and definitely not Memorex. I will write a blog post each day of this forty-day journey. I really don’t know what each day will bring. But I am excited and ready to take on this challenge. This will also commit me to writing everyday, which will help me become a more disciplined writer.
So join me on my forty day journey to success.