Planning for Growth: Self Care Plans

They succeed instinctively because they each know their own temp and recognize it in the individuals and institutions with who they collaborate.” T.D. Jakes

Bishop T.D. Jakes wrote a book on instincts to enlighten the world about tapping into their inner being and living instinctively. The word “instinct” sends our minds to the animal kingdom but humans have natural instincts too.  Animals rely on their instincts for survival or else they become prey for predators. It’s something that occurs naturally and is not taught. Using your instincts is crucial to establishing a good self care plan.

Do you know yourself well enough to live by instincts? Living by instinct requires you to trust that little voice inside. This occurs when you take time to learn yourself as an individual. Intimately knowing self is the core of self-love and self-care. Proper self-care and self-nurture leads to growth. You make time for everyone except self, which stagnates individual instinctive growth.

Your instincts are at the core of your being, your spirit, your gut, your third eye, your chakras, your internal compass. Learning who you are instinctively takes time which means you will need to allow more time for self. Instinctive growth helps you tap into your core, and learn who you are, what you are naturally good at, what you are passionate about, and, how you learn, how you fall, your strengths, your weak areas, and more.  Use the information you discover to create your self-care plan so you can grow instinctively.

Instinctive Growth & Self Care Plans

Instinctive growth involves listening to your inner being to move along the path of self-care. How does one grow instinctively? It requires being in sync with yourself, God (Universe, Higher Power), your environments, your relationships, and your purpose.

The process of instinctive growth includes:

  1. Growing from the inner being outwardly
  2. Adopting or working from a growth mindset
  3. Recognizing constant growth within you
  4. Seeking opportunities to grow

Use stagnation as a tool to measure and review areas in your life for possible pruning. When you are in tune with your instincts you will recognize when you  need to establish boundaries, which helps develop self-discipline.

Path to Purpose and Self Care Plans

The path begins with a decision. A decision to live on purpose, thus making self-care your first priority. Do you believe there is more you could be doing, desire more peace, joy, and fulfillment? If yes, then you are ready to begin your journey, your path to purpose. But this realization also comes with the acceptance that self-care and purpose can be overwhelming, so where do you start?

Great! You decided to move forward with purpose and self-care. Next, learn what it means to live on purpose, how it relates to your inner being, how purpose influences your instinctive growth, and how to use everything you discover as growth steps in your self-care plan. Establishing your path to purpose will touch all aspects of your life through your growth steps, which allows you to implement a self-care plan that fuels your instinctive growth.

Learning to Grow Instinctively

You are born with an instinct towards purpose but may not know how to take hold of it. That’s where growth is necessary. Learning who you are is the first growth step to in your self-care plan. Which may require a fresh start in some areas. You have to open yourself to learning self much like a baby learns self.

For example, babies rely on their instincts for survival and self-discovery. In their first year of life, they discover self first through their five senses. They discover their body through taste and touch, they discover their voice through hearing and speaking and eventually they discover they can move their body on their own, they can sit, then stand, then walk, then run, then talk, and it goes on and on.

Once they have discovered all their natural abilities as a youngster, they are nurtured by their parents, their environment, and they grow! They receive input from their parents, their environments, their connections to people, and their inner self.

But what happens if the child doesn’t grow in this natural process? They become adults with incomplete foundations who don’t know how to nurture and care for self, much less others. As a result, they continue to grow physically but may be stagnated emotionally or spiritually. Your childhood growth pattern determines the path to purpose and self-care.

Growth Step #1: Go back to the basics. Rely on your inner self to learn who you are and use what you discover to grow instinctively.

The Growth Formula

The Growth Formula is designed to assist you with establishing a path to purpose and self-care plan. It involves your whole being and tapping into all resources including your Spirit (God, Universe, Higher Power), your Instincts (Self), and your Focus (Mind). So all are needed because each one brings a different perspective, tool, guidance, and power to your path.

Spirit + Instincts + Focus = Purpose (Growth)

Following this growth formula will fuel you on your path to purpose. It teaches you how to use all your resources to reach your goals. Once you discover your individual design, you will begin to see which resources yield the most return for you.

Realizing the importance of growing daily, where you are stagnate, and what is involved in each part of the Growth Formula is the first step in accomplishing growth and starting a self-care plan. The graphic below shows the Circle of Purpose and how each part of you relates holistically to your path to purpose and self-care. Establishing a path to purpose is the first step in implementing your self-care plan.

circle of purpose, self care plan, instinctive growth, hoistic

Finally, if you are still breathing then you are still growing and living on purpose. Therefore, to accomplish growth you will need to understand how spirituality, instincts, focus, and your mindset contribute to your growth and self-care. Everyday should be an opportunity to practice self-care, it should become like air, you need it to survive.

Contact coach Athena to receive your self-care assessment and planning tool which is designed to help you establish a starting point in your self-care journey.


Why Christian Coaching?

Christian coaching:

  • Uses God’s word and the Holy Spirit to enable you to discover and live God’s purpose.
  • Keeps Christian faith in the coaching process.

The following story demonstrates how Jesus helped a man refocus his life and walk into his destiny. A man laid at the side of the pool of Bethesda for 38 years seeking healing. Jesus asked him “Wilt thou be made whole?” The man said that he could not get healed because no one would help him get in the pool. Jesus told him Yes You Can, Today and healed him directly. He then told the man “Rise, take up your bed and walk.” (John 5:6-8 Paraphrased) Jesus restored healing to his body and focus to his life.

The Godly Touch

The fast ended on the day before Thanksgiving. I have much to be thankful for as a result of the fast. Many times when you begin a fast you don’t really know what it will bring. You may start with one thing in mind, but end up with something totally different. For me this fast was about favor, but I did not know specifically what type of favor. But then it wasn’t really about me either.

I found favor in so many areas during this fast, but so did the people around me. I am so thankful to be allowed to touch the lives of others. God showed me how he allows me to do that during this fast. I really spent time in his presence hearing from the Spirit. God has really overwhelmed me with his presence. I love it when he is at work because it so smooth and natural. Flawless!

We traveled for the holiday and when we made the initial plans were not sure whether or rather how things would work out. But God orchestrated every step. From getting the rental car, which I got a bargain on, to getting the provision to travel and enjoy the trip. My children and I felt free and excited to have an experience that would bring so much joy to us. But for me it was about the greeting we received when we arrived. My friend’s family greeted us so warmly and made us feel very loved. Just like the prodigal son who returned home.

God taught me about the power of a Godly touch. How it can bring about healing and restoration. That is why there is so much power in the laying of hands because it acts as a conduit, a means of transferring energy from one source to another. You may ask yourself, “What do I have to transfer?” Just think about all that God has poured into you. When I think about what he has poured into me over this fast I realize that it is not just for me, but for me to share with others through the conduit he has activated. I know that God has anointed me to give spiritual life to those who are suffering and it is transferred through that Godly touch.

That is what God has done and what I will continue to do in my ministry. I will administer the Godly touch to those whom he tells me so that they can experience the life of freedom and joy promised by God.

Nothing Missing Nothing Broken

“Beloved, I pray that you may prosper in every way and [that your body] may keep well, even as [I know] your soul keeps well and prospers.”

Third John 1:2 (AMP)

 

Yesterday I sowed a seed to a ministry. I do this often but this time it was different. This is a test of my faith. I know what level I am supposed to be living at yet I find myself with much less. I am not accepting this by any means. I know that it is simply a stepping-stone.

Did you know that as a child of God you are promised a life of prosperity and wealth? I don’t necessarily mean wealth in money and material things. There are many people who have a lot of “things” but are poor in their spirit and in other areas of their lives. I recently learned that rich means being fully supplied in all areas of your life. You are lacking nothing. Look at your life. Are you rich?

When I first heard this I felt a sense of relief because I have always had a wealthy spirit. I find accepting less is not comfortable for me anymore. When I got laid off, I moved in with family members. I did not understand this especially since I knew that I did not have to live this way. God has made ways for me in impossible situations before; surely he could have done the same this time. But here I am and it has not been okay. Now don’t get me wrong I am not ungrateful and am very thankful because he is taking care of me. However, I know the standard of life that God has for me and once you live it you don’t settle for less than that.

I am now looking to move on and I realize that I can’t go back to the life I lived before. God has set a standard for my life and by faith I expectantly look for him to provide for me according to that standard. I sowed my seed on behalf of my family that we would have the following:

  1. A strife-free home
  2. God will put me in the center of my assignment (purpose)
  3. God will give me a financial Boaz

I received this from Mike Murdock yesterday and it was as if God had crafted this just for me. These are the three areas I am poor in right now. Therefore I am expecting abundance in these areas because God said that I am not supposed to be poor in any area of my life. I am slapping poverty in the face and speaking abundance that will follow my children and their children for many generations to come.

Yesterday I visited a web site for a company that sold insurance. The parent company has been in existence since the early nineteen hundreds and on the site they represented the lineage of those who ran the company over the years, there were at least three or four generations. This is the type of legacy that God wants us to have. He wants us to get back to the days when we were able to pass the torch on to our children like Abraham did and keep the blessing going. That is what I am expecting.

What are you expecting?

Day 39 – Start Living, It’s Not too Late

 

I got a new client today. I was so excited because she found me in the yellow book, which means my ad is paying for itself. Life moves so quickly, one moment you are thinking about something, just an idea and the next you find yourself bringing the idea to life. This was just an idea about six months ago. Just like this journey is almost done.

My new client just turned 72 and she is still very active. She has only been retired for two years. She has so much spirit, enthusiasm, and a great desire to make a difference. At her age she has decided to take on a project that she is passionate about. I am honored to be working with her and pray that I will continue to have that much energy when I reach her age.

Life is too short to continue to make excuses for dreams not realized and goals not met. It is never too late to start over or finish something you started years earlier. Life only ends when you stop moving, stop dreaming and stop making a difference. What are you passionate about? I am passionate about making sure that people with Asperger’s have a voice and resources available to be successful. It is something I will always work on for business and charity.

Get up and start moving today. Tomorrow is too late and yesterday will never come again.

Day Eighteen – Following Your Calling is a Key to Success

I talk about change quite a bit. Perhaps its because nothing in the last seven years of my life has remained the same. There has been change in every area of my life. Not bad changes just major changes. Today my life does not look like anything I am used to. Next year my life will look even more different.

My goal is to live the life that God has already predestined for me. To surrender my wants and to adopt his will. I have been seeking what would please me and not God. Thinking that I could not do without those things I was holding on to so tightly. I can specifically remember that God told me to let go of something almost two years ago and I was disobedient. I did not do it. But that thing has since become something that I cannot stand. It has become something that is detestable to me. I know full well that my feelings about it will not change. I don’t know why God said to let it go but I will never know why if I don’t. Therefore today I surrendered it to God.

Season of Calling

My path is already laid out and it is very specific. There are many things that God has for me to do. They require all of my dedication and determination. January marks the beginning of that season. The season of calling where all that do will be related to the calling on my life. Every person in my life will have place in that calling. Not that I don’t still love my friends but I have to be obedient and focus on what God has given me. So I ask my friends to understand in advance that it is not personal. I still love them dearly but right now it is all about God and my calling.

Are you ready to prosper? What will it require for you to position yourself to follow God’s chosen path for your life? Do you realize that is your road to prosperity? Living your calling, whatever it is, is your path towards prosperity. If you want to learn more about finding your calling or being able to clearly understand how all of this relates to you, please contact me. I will give you a free initial consultation to help you determine your path towards prosperity.

Day Fifteen – Focus is a Key to Success

Today I attended a webinar on Web Analytics. It was boring, can’t really say that I learned anything other than all of the acronyms that are used when talking about analyzing web data. But it did spark something for me to consider for the business. I do need to track and analyze the traffic data from all of my websites. But recently I have really taken on too much, thus my focus has shifted and I now feel like I am missing some things.

Focus on Immediate Needs

I have taken on something new without making sure that the things I had already started are completed and today I felt that pressure. I decided that next year I will need to get some help if I am going to accomplish my goals. So I started looking for a Virtual Assistant. But during that process my focus shifted from what I was working on to a future need. Then it all became too big and overwhelming.

Focus means, “to concentrate attention or effort.”[1] In order to meet your goals and be successful, you need to be able to focus and not allow your focus shift towards things that are not related to your immediate goals. Yes, hiring a Virtual Assistant is related to my business goals, but it is not an immediate goal. It is a mid-term goal, which means it will not happen for another 3 to 6 months. The more immediate goals need to be accomplished within a one-month period. Therefore my focus should remain on them.

Getting Off Track

When you get off track and allow your focus to shift towards longer terms goals your task can seem overwhelming thus leading to confusion and anxiety. So goals should be attainable and manageable. For example what I am working on right now is an immediate goal because I need to use it this week, however it will benefit my business on a larger scale on a longer term as well. Therefore it has a bigger picture but a more immediate need. Versus the need for the Virtual Assistant, which right now I am handling things on my own. However I realized today that as I get more clients, my time spent doing administrative and operational tasks will diminish. The bigger picture shows that I will need an assistant but the need is not immediate. Therefore it is not something that needs my immediate focus.

So how do we stay focused on our immediate tasks? I have a dry erase board that lists only the immediate business tasks, projects or clients that I am focused on. Therefore these things are what usually get my focus. When I was shifted today, I did not immediately go back to what I was working on. So I took a break. I stepped away from all of it and cleared my mind so that I could get back on track. When I came back I was able to set aside the search for a Virtual Assistant and pick up where my focus should have been.

Distractions will come so you should expect them. But you need to have something that will jolt you back to your focus. Sometimes it is helpful to write out your immediate goals and post them somewhere visible so that you can quickly refer to them. Find what works for you but you need to stay focused in order to succeed.


[1] Merriam-Webster’s Collegiate Dictionary Tenth Edition. 2001

Day Twelve – Commitment is an Important Key to Success

I love Fridays because I can reflect on my week and can finally rest. I had a good week. I get so excited about my business. I learn something new everyday. I love being a coach and helping people succeed.

This week I met all of my goals except one. I am stuck in one area and that is not good. But I will get back on track. I have to reset the goal for myself and assign a new completion date. I may need to have someone hold me accountable this time. It is harder with this one thing because it is not something I really want to do but need to do. So my discipline is low with it. I don’t need anyone to hold me accountable for finding new products for my business because I am passionate about that and can do that in my sleep.

But this goal is not like that it is a practical one that needs to be done and does not illicit the same passion. But I will get it done because I committed to doing it. Commitment is a big deal, if you cannot commit to anything you will not achieve the level of success you deserve. You may continuously start things but rarely finish.

I used to be that way; I always liked the excitement of starting new things but would quit when I lost interest or when it got hard. But I realized that I had missed so many good things in my life due to lack of commitment. Therefore I had to make some changes. Today my commitment record is much better. I have seen my way through some difficult situations that I really wanted to back away from. But I saw it through to completion and learned from the experience.

Thanks for taking this journey with me. I have learned so much in the first 12 days.

Day Ten – It is Random, But Great

Sometimes I can be a workaholic because I like to make sure things are done. But I will admit that I don’t always know when to quit. But I am learning to read the cues. As long as I meet the goals that I set for a given day it is okay to shut it down. I completed what I needed for today but some things came up that made me want to keep going. But I cut it off and said enough.

On some nights I struggle with writing a post. But I have to write something because I committed to this 40-day journey. So it is realistic that you will not always have the most profound or long piece. That is what I am learning, but most importantly that it is okay. On the days that I have a good piece it is great. But on these days when it is random it is equally great.

My day was productive and quite satisfying therefore I am okay with ending it and leaving all new things until tomorrow. I have found writing these daily posts to be a good way to end my day. It gives me time to reflect on my day and take daily inventory. I am sure as I go back and re-read these I will begin to discover new things about myself. Like I have done with my journaling.

Writing is a good release and the perfect way to end the day.

Day Nine – Adjust Your Mirror

Inspiration comes in many shapes and forms. What inspires one may not inspire another. God has placed some extraordinary people in my life. I am often amazed at their level of devotion and admiration of my accomplishments. I don’t always see myself the way others see me. But my mirror has been changing over the past few years.

When I used to look in the mirror, I did not like what I saw. I always felt like I was unattractive and unimportant to those around me. I never wanted to have the spotlight on me and was usually very quiet. When I look in the mirror now I am in awe of the beauty that stares back at me. She looks at me now and says, “Where have you been?” “What took you so long to notice me?”

But I notice her now. She is bold and confident. She still does not like to be the center of attention but no longer shies away from it when it is given. She notices when her gifts shine brightly and bring life to those around her. Therefore, she will never ever believe that she is unimportant to those around her again.

Are you reflecting the good parts or the false parts? The law of attraction states that you attract what you think or energy attracts like energy. If your mirror focuses on negative parts of you then you will also maintain a negative energy thus attracting similar people. But once you clean your mirror and begin to see the real, positive and gifted person on the other side, you will begin to attract positive energy. You will be able to see what others see.

What do you see in your mirror?