Choosing a Life Coach

Life Coach Expertise

Choosing a life coach is something that should not be done on a whim. In this technology age, it is easy for anyone to attach a title to their name and advertise as a life coach. In her article, 7 Questions to Ask When Choosing a Life Coach, Romila “Dr. Romie” Mushtaq, MD, points out that “people can claim to be a life coach but may have done so by watching videos or reading self-help books.” She recommends asking specific questions about where they obtained their training and exactly what makes them an expert or authority in their coaching niche. 

A life coach’s personal experience is a big part of their expertise or authority in their niche. For example, I am a Life Calling Coach. I help people discover their calling and purpose. A big part of that process is overcoming obstacles, barriers, and hurdles on the path to purpose. The things you don’t plan for. They happen to everyone even life coaches and other professionals. I am equipped to help people overcome because I have successfully overcome many life obstacles on my journey to become a life coach, including financial setbacks, illness, disability, anxiety, etc. Some of these things may still exist but I have learned how to work around them and an experienced life coach should be able to help you do the same.                                                                                                                                                           

Interview Prospective Coaches

If you are considering hiring a life coach, I recommend that you interview the coach. Most life coaches offer a free discovery meeting. This is your opportunity to find out who they are in person. Yes, I do recommend that you read their biography or social media posts to understand what is offered, but these sources rarely portray the spirit, essence, and training of the coach.  

During your research remember that life coaches are people just like you, with struggles, issues, and setbacks. Personally, I would never hire a life coach who appears to be perfect because they are not and they may not even be qualified to be a coach. One of the questions recommended in the article, is to ask the life coach, “Where did you do your training?” Some people claim to be a life coach but have never received any formal training in the field.

A Good Fit

The most important aspect of hiring a life coach is to ensure that the two of you are a good fit. Do you have a good rapport? Does the coach listen to you intently? Do they try to tell you what to do rather than guiding you to discover your answer? Do you have a sense of trust with them? These are important things to consider because it is a huge responsibility to put crucial parts of your life in someone’s hands. Your life coach should take that seriously and respect that. Lastly, while life coaching is a paid profession, money should not be the number one reason that they are a life coach. Life coaches should have a genuine desire to help others succeed. This can be seen in a discovery call.

The life coaching journey is not easy, it is a process of self-discovery that may be overwhelming as you learn more about yourself. So, having a professional, caring, and well-trained life coach, who can facilitate your journey with as little stress as possible, will help you to achieve your goals sufficiently. Your coach should make the experience rewarding and uplifting instead of scary and daunting. You owe it to yourself to hire the best life coach for your life situation. So don’t skimp when it comes to thoroughly investigate what they can truly offer. Ask questions and do your research but most of all listen to your intuition.

PURPOSE OF LIFE: ACCEPT YOUR GIFT

“For you formed my inward parts; You covered me in my mother’s womb. I will praise You, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made; Marvelous are your works.” Psalm 139:13-14 NKJV

Uniquely Created

Being unique means you are one of a kind. You were not made from a mold but fashioned together very carefully. No other being exists like you. There may be someone who is similar to you that may have the same hair color, the same car or listen to the same type of music. But they are not made exactly like you in every way. That was not done by accident. You were “fearfully and wonderfully made.” To be fearfully made means you were made greatly with much intensity and thought.

For His Purpose

In Him we have obtained an inheritance, being predestined according to the purpose of Him who works all things according to the counsel of His will, that we who first trusted in Christ should be to the praise of His glory.” Ephesians 1:11 NKJV

Not only are you unique but also you are chosen for a specific purpose that works in accordance with God’s overall plan. Initially you may not know how you fit into the overall plan, which causes you to fumble around in darkness. But at some point in your life God starts to reveal things to you.

You may have discovered that you are a good writer and begin writing a book about your journey with God. You may have discovered you can write and compose songs and begin working on gospel songs for your choir. You may have discovered that you are able to understand and teach God’s word to anyone and begin teaching Sunday school. You may have discovered that you are able to soothe those who are hurting and begin encouraging others. You may have discovered that you are able to lead a group of people and became a minister.

But something went wrong and you began to doubt your ability and effectiveness. Eventually you stopped practicing your gift. You fell into a slump and life became unbearable for you as you began to stumble around in the darkness again. But you can recover from this minor setback because God loves you and has invested in your success, according to Ephesians 1:11, which states, “that we who first trusted in Christ should be to the praise of His glory.”

Expression of His Love

New parents hold their newborn in their arms, gazing in awe at what has been created out of their love. They softly caress her face and check her hands and feet to make sure they are complete. They watch her as she grows and gets excited when she discovers her foot for the first time, then lovingly watches as she keeps putting her new foot in her mouth, exploring it. That is how God is with each of his children. He created you out of his love and lovingly watches you grow. He gets excited when you discover your first gift and watches as you learn to use it.

Just like the baby starts by putting her foot in her mouth, she soon realizes that her feet are not for eating but for walking. Sometimes you don’t know how to properly use your gift and may use it for the wrong purpose and begin to experience struggle. Continuously doing so may make you decide it’s not worth the effort anymore, so you abandon the gift.

Similarly, the baby, now a toddler, discovers she is able to stand and begin to move around the room if she stands up and moves her feet. She begins to experiment with standing until gradually she builds up to taking a step. This is an exciting time for both parents and child. But if the toddler has a bad experience during her discovery and practice, such as falling or getting hurt, she may experience a set back in perfecting her gift of walking. Without proper guidance from the parent she may try to abandon her gift all together because of fear.

Intimately Known

The parent plays a big role in helping the toddler feel secure and continuing to practice her gift until she masters it because the parent knows the toddler intimately. He watches her practice and anticipates the ways she may mess up, so he makes preparations to keep the toddler on track and avoid a major setback, by installing safety measures in the house. As a result the toddler is walking without assistance and secure in her ability to do so.

God knows you intimately and will do the same for you. When you find yourself struggling or fumbling around in the dark with a gift, pray and allow God to help you. Ask Him to show you where you got off track and then ask Him to show you the proper way to cultivate your gift. If you have developed a fear in that area, ask Him to protect you as you begin to practice your gift again.

Just like the parent does with the toddler God will, give you praise when you reach a milestone, caution when you are going in the wrong direction, encouragement when it gets hard, protection from the unseen dangers, and lovingly reward you when you get it just right.

Accept Your Gift

So take a minute to revisit that book you stopped writing, that song you stopped composing, those classes you stopped teaching, those people you stopped encouraging, that degree you stopped pursuing, or those sheep you stopped shepherding. Accept that God has given you this gift and that through Him you were fearfully and wonderfully made to fulfill his purpose through that gift. Turn your struggles over to God and ask him to show you how to start again, but this time ask him to be your guide and actively engage him through your process. You will find it is much easier to navigate your new gift with a little loving guidance.