Day 40 – My Success

Today is the last day of the Forty Days to Success journey. So I know you are asking was this a success or rather what is my success? Yes it was a success, because I finished the journey. Success is finishing what you started. But let’s take inventory of where I started and where I am now.

Forty days ago I was immobilized by fear. The fear of so many things not exactly because the fear was real, most are not. But just fearful of the unknown, today I have embraced those fears and I am moving forward. I made quite a few confessions in the past week about my real desires and did not allow the fear to stop me.

I realized that I am really at a great point in my life. I stand here at this crossroad ready to go over into an area I have been trying to get to for most of my adult life. My business is successful because in the past week I have had three new inquiries for web projects that are going to become paying clients, two have already signed. I also have another prospective client to jump start my business coaching. I am preparing to launch my final website and to officially publish my first book.

But this is about more than business. This is about living not just waking up everyday and going through the routines, but really living. Enjoying each day good and bad. Not being afraid to take the chances even when it may look like the odds are not in your favor. But if it makes you happy and brings you joy, why not?

I saw For Colored Girls today and cried through most of it because yet again here was another movie that I was able to relate to in too many ways. But the truth is that I am tired of living that life, tired of being afraid because of the things that happened to me. The truth is that they did not succeed. I am still alive, breathing, loving and growing. I am not sick, crazy or depressed. I have three beautiful children who are flourishing and happy. I am in love with myself.

This is my success!! Thank you for reading my blog and following me on this journey.

Love, Peace and Prosperity

Athena

Day 32 – The New Year is Here

Well New Year’s day was quiet and restful. I enjoyed the day and the time we had off. The children go back to school on Monday and we had to do winter packages. So today was the day to get reoriented with work and school. I made some preliminary preparations for my return to work on Monday.

So now that it is here what do we do? What do most people actually do on New Year’s Day? It is not like Christmas you exchange gifts on Christmas and spend time with family. But what do you do on New Year’s Day? Planning is probably a good thing to do because it is the first day of the year.

Take some time to map out where you are going and how you will get there this year.

Day 23 – Cycle of Failure Starts with Guilt

The Cycle of Failure starts with guilt. Guilt is defined as feelings of culpability esp. for imagined offenses or from a sense of inadequacy[1]. We all make poor choices and mistakes that lead to a sense of inadequacy. Especially when we seem to repeat these choices. I have an exercise that I use with my support group that helps them to discover the root of why you repeat poor choices. My lesson is called Uncovering the Truth and it is based and excerpt called The Story of the Pit from the book A Jewel in His Crown by Priscilla Shirer.

Chapter One

I walk down the street
There’s a deep hole in the sidewalk
I fall in
It’s not my fault
It takes a long time to get out

Chapter Two

I walk down the same street
There’s a deep hole in the sidewalk
I see it there
I still fall in
It’s not my fault
It takes a long time to get out

Chapter Three

I walk down the same street
There’s a deep hole in the sidewalk
I pretend I don’t see it
I fall in
I must be a victim
It takes forever to get out

By the time you reach chapter three, guilt has set in and becomes your new roommate. You clearly realize there is something wrong. Repeatedly walking down this same street and ending up with the same results has begun to make you feel inadequate “I must be a victim.” However, we are all imperfect humans, not all victims and we have to learn from our mistakes. But now you have feelings of resentment and are not able to forgive yourself for repeating this same behavior. The inability to forgive makes the guilt rise and leads to anger.

If you are at this point in the cycle use this prayer today to conquer unforgiveness.

Heavenly Father,

I forgive (enter the name of the person, including yourself) for anything wrong he or she (I) has ever done or said, any unforgiveness or grudges toward me or my family that (enter the same name, including yourself) has at this time and I bless (enter same name) in the Name of Jesus Christ. I ask you Father to forgive and bless (enter same name) in the Name of Jesus Christ. Father show him or her (me) Your mercy and loving-kindness, and teach him or her (me).

In Jesus Name I claim this victory today according to John 14:14.

Amen


[1] Merriam-Webster’s Collegiate Dictionary Tenth Edition. 2001

Day Fifteen – Focus is a Key to Success

Today I attended a webinar on Web Analytics. It was boring, can’t really say that I learned anything other than all of the acronyms that are used when talking about analyzing web data. But it did spark something for me to consider for the business. I do need to track and analyze the traffic data from all of my websites. But recently I have really taken on too much, thus my focus has shifted and I now feel like I am missing some things.

Focus on Immediate Needs

I have taken on something new without making sure that the things I had already started are completed and today I felt that pressure. I decided that next year I will need to get some help if I am going to accomplish my goals. So I started looking for a Virtual Assistant. But during that process my focus shifted from what I was working on to a future need. Then it all became too big and overwhelming.

Focus means, “to concentrate attention or effort.”[1] In order to meet your goals and be successful, you need to be able to focus and not allow your focus shift towards things that are not related to your immediate goals. Yes, hiring a Virtual Assistant is related to my business goals, but it is not an immediate goal. It is a mid-term goal, which means it will not happen for another 3 to 6 months. The more immediate goals need to be accomplished within a one-month period. Therefore my focus should remain on them.

Getting Off Track

When you get off track and allow your focus to shift towards longer terms goals your task can seem overwhelming thus leading to confusion and anxiety. So goals should be attainable and manageable. For example what I am working on right now is an immediate goal because I need to use it this week, however it will benefit my business on a larger scale on a longer term as well. Therefore it has a bigger picture but a more immediate need. Versus the need for the Virtual Assistant, which right now I am handling things on my own. However I realized today that as I get more clients, my time spent doing administrative and operational tasks will diminish. The bigger picture shows that I will need an assistant but the need is not immediate. Therefore it is not something that needs my immediate focus.

So how do we stay focused on our immediate tasks? I have a dry erase board that lists only the immediate business tasks, projects or clients that I am focused on. Therefore these things are what usually get my focus. When I was shifted today, I did not immediately go back to what I was working on. So I took a break. I stepped away from all of it and cleared my mind so that I could get back on track. When I came back I was able to set aside the search for a Virtual Assistant and pick up where my focus should have been.

Distractions will come so you should expect them. But you need to have something that will jolt you back to your focus. Sometimes it is helpful to write out your immediate goals and post them somewhere visible so that you can quickly refer to them. Find what works for you but you need to stay focused in order to succeed.


[1] Merriam-Webster’s Collegiate Dictionary Tenth Edition. 2001

Forty Days to Success

I decided to write this because I am embarking on a challenging journey. I was asked to write what success looks like for me. This exercise was supposed to help me develop a plan of action to make it a reality. Something is keeping me from stepping into my successful life. What is it?

It is fear, as you will also learn about me fear has always been present in my life. In my earlier years fear immobilized me and kept me from pursuing things that were dear to my heart. One of biggest fears was the fear of success. But I have overcome so many of my fears. So why is it an issue now? It may be because there is so much at stake right now. As a professional life coach I encourage my clients to move past their fears to meet their goals. So there is much at stake here. I don’t believe in just telling people how to do things, I like to share by experience.

This journey is about my life, about realizing some longtime dreams and finally living the life I was destined to live. It means leaving so much and so many behind. It means walking into things I am not used to. That is what the fear is about, fear of the unknown. But my greatest fear is not taking the steps because then I will be stuck. Stuck in an existence that is not fulfilling.

So I decided to take you on my journey. This new journey is not predefined, not scripted, and definitely not Memorex. I will write a blog post each day of this forty-day journey. I really don’t know what each day will bring. But I am excited and ready to take on this challenge. This will also commit me to writing everyday, which will help me become a more disciplined writer.

So join me on my forty day journey to success.