Living on Purpose: Jia Jiang – Lessons from 100 Days of Rejection

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Living on Purpose: Jia Jiang

Jia placed himself in purposeful situations where he would be rejected in an effort to combat his fear of rejection. He used this to empower himself due to his destiny and purpose to be an entrepreneur.

In return he learns some valuable life lessons from his experiment using rejection therapy about the power of rejection.

Thank you for living on purpose Jia.

Living on Purpose: Joe Ehrmann “Be a Man”

Living on Purpose: Joe Ehrmann

Living on purpose at times may set one in a position where they are fighting for a cause much bigger than themselves. In the second installment of this type of purpose, I highlight Joe Ehrmann, a coach on a mission to re-frame the sports industry in order to preserve real men. This battle is huge and involves millions of dollars which means there are some pretty heavy influencer on the scene. But this does not deter him from his passion to see men who are able to communicate on an emotional level and still exert their strength.

Despite the size of the enemy, purpose rears up and shows itself to be King in a world where being rich means more than having enriching relationships. Joe shares some concrete findings about how men learn to be a man affects the type of man they become.

Thank you Joe for living on purpose.

Purpose of Life: Are You on a Focused Path?

As part of my new endeavor, in May 2010, I continued blogging with a new purpose under Free in the Spirit, which has its own history, as this blog originated before I became a Life Coach. I spent the past five years honing my skills and shifting my focus because I realized that it was easy to become a Life Coach but not so easy to establish a niche, as the market is huge.

So here I am again blogging but not under Free in the Spirit. This blog is intentionally related to my niche and my destiny. But I purposely included some of my old posts here as well. When I wrote 40 Days of Success back in 2010, it was my first attempt to write on purpose. I have known since I was a teen that I was a writer but I failed to focus my craft over the years.

As you will see in those posts, there were some days when I did not have a clear focused topic. But I published something anyway because the goal was to write for 40 days straight. I will admit that it was not easy either. There were days when I did not want to continue but I knew if I quit, then I would not be successful as a writer.

Never confuse activity with productivity. — Rick Warren

Focused for a Purpose

I was being proactive but was I really being productive? No, I was attempting to become productive but during that 40 days I did not produce much. Why? I lacked focus. My writing did not have a focus. I wrote about random things which as a collective did not amount to one solid piece of work. I realized this when I attempted to rewrite the series into a short e-book. Upon careful review, I found that in the entire 40 days I only produced five consistent pieces that I could bring together into one solid e-book, called The Cycle of Failure. I did have some decent posts in the last ten days, as I became more focused and deliberate about the content. But during that time the purpose of my writing was to create discipline as a writer.

Lack of focus will have you spiraling in all directions, always starting things but rarely completing anything. I continued to write sporadically until 2013, when my voice went silent. I was silent because I did not have focus nor a purpose for the blog. I allowed God to pour into me and I began a five-year journey towards purpose. I went back to school to focus my craft of writing and Life Coaching as I knew this was my destiny. But I also knew that I would not be effective in either unless I allowed God to show me how to use them purposefully. It was a long journey and it took much discipline because I had to shut people out as I became purposeful in the use of my time and energy.

Focus Feeds Purpose

Today is quite different for me. As a result of my purposeful endeavors I am focused. I have been writing consistently now for two years. I completed a book, write poetry daily, and am currently working on two other books. I write on my phone, my tablet, in many notebooks, on my computer, and anything else that will allow me to record. I now have enough content to write several books. I launched out into the world of fiction writing and now maintain two blogs producing focused, deliberate content on a weekly basis. Very seldom do I sit down and struggle to find something to write about because knowing why I am doing this empowers me to create.

My purpose for writing is to be the voice for the voiceless, to speak for those who cannot speak for themselves, and empower them to live on purpose. Writing is the vehicle God has given me to uplift others by sharing my journey and by showing others that anything is possible when you believe, in God first, then in yourself. Allowing God to shift your focus is the first step towards living on purpose.

Speak out on behalf of those who have no voice,
and defend all those who have been passed over.
9 Open your mouth, judge fairly,
and stand up for the rights of the afflicted and the poor. – Proverbs 31:8-9 (Voice Translation)

What is Life Coaching?

Life coaching is similar to sports coaching only you are the player and the sport is living the best life you can. Living by focus, on purpose and not by accident.

As your life coach I am your:

  • Cheering squad – cheer you towards victory
  • Defensive coordinator – push you to work hard and stay focused
  • Play coach – help you develop your strategy and game plan so you can focus on meeting your goals.

I listen intently and reflect on what is said to help you use God’s word to focus and implement your life purpose.

Procrastination Stops Here

Procrastination Slows You Down
Procrastination Slows You Down

There really is no reason why I have not written since January. I have attempted to write several times only to end up with nothing. Procrastination, hmm what a sneaky thing that creeps up in your path. It keeps you from moving when your mind is saying GO. It makes you say I will do it tomorrow then tomorrow you say I will do it tomorrow. It creates a never ending cycle of tomorrow that never seem to come to an end.

I am not professing to be perfect as I know I never will but I am professing to do a lot less procrastinating. I have been working on it since the beginning of this year. As I looked at my blog again today. I started to say that I would post something tomorrow. Instead I started typing. I am a writer by nature, if there is any such thing. So why don’t I write? I have been journaling more lately, which is very good because I had been blocked with that for so long. But now it seems much is pouring out of me. I have a new book idea and actually started writing it. At first I thought it would be an article but it really is much more than an article. I may decide to blog it first then turn it into a book.

I have not reached out to you all in a while but I wanted you to know that I am still here and love you all dearly. I cannot promise to post everyday, but I am committing to posting something at least once per week. I would love to here from you to know how you like my blog. I opened up comments without registration. So feel free to connect and let’s start a conversation.

I have many exciting things coming up and want you all to be a part of it, so keep visiting.

Celebrate Love

Love is on the Horizon
Love is on the Horizon

I watched a show tonight about Manuel Uribe, the world’s heaviest man, getting married. It was sad to watch him struggle with his condition but I was inspired by his zest for life. He was so excited about getting married. During the show another morbidly obese man in his town died. He is working very hard to lose the weight and regain his mobility.

It stirred something in me as I watched show. I imagine that it is probably the love he shares with his wife that fuels him and keeps him motivated. He has lost over 400 pounds and while he has much more to go he is optimistic. Love is so powerful and can give you the strength of ten people just knowing that someone loves you enough to stand by you when you are weak. To see the best in you even when you can’t or anyone else for that matter.

“Set me as a seal upon your heart,
as a seal upon your arm;
For love is as strong as death,
Jealously as cruel as the grave;
Its flames are flames of fire,
A most vehement flame.
Many waters cannot quench love,
Nor can the floods drown it.
If a man would give for love all the wealth of his house,
it would be utterly despised.”
Song of Solomon 8:6-7

I absolutely love this scripture because it speaks to the true essence of heartfelt and passionate love. As long as the beloved knows that she is secure in his heart she can feel secure. Isn’t that what we all are seeking? That true unconditional love that is 100% committed and gives you the confidence to do anything.

 It exists and better yet it is something God can give us and he has preordained for us to have with another person. Don’t count out love yet. If you have not found the one that you want to set you, as a seal upon their heart, don’t worry they are out there.

Day 40 – My Success

Today is the last day of the Forty Days to Success journey. So I know you are asking was this a success or rather what is my success? Yes it was a success, because I finished the journey. Success is finishing what you started. But let’s take inventory of where I started and where I am now.

Forty days ago I was immobilized by fear. The fear of so many things not exactly because the fear was real, most are not. But just fearful of the unknown, today I have embraced those fears and I am moving forward. I made quite a few confessions in the past week about my real desires and did not allow the fear to stop me.

I realized that I am really at a great point in my life. I stand here at this crossroad ready to go over into an area I have been trying to get to for most of my adult life. My business is successful because in the past week I have had three new inquiries for web projects that are going to become paying clients, two have already signed. I also have another prospective client to jump start my business coaching. I am preparing to launch my final website and to officially publish my first book.

But this is about more than business. This is about living not just waking up everyday and going through the routines, but really living. Enjoying each day good and bad. Not being afraid to take the chances even when it may look like the odds are not in your favor. But if it makes you happy and brings you joy, why not?

I saw For Colored Girls today and cried through most of it because yet again here was another movie that I was able to relate to in too many ways. But the truth is that I am tired of living that life, tired of being afraid because of the things that happened to me. The truth is that they did not succeed. I am still alive, breathing, loving and growing. I am not sick, crazy or depressed. I have three beautiful children who are flourishing and happy. I am in love with myself.

This is my success!! Thank you for reading my blog and following me on this journey.

Love, Peace and Prosperity

Athena

Day 37 – Conquering Fear is a Key to Success

Fear is false evidence appearing real and it is a real pain. Fear grips so many of us and keeps us from moving forward. Today I listened to a sermon about fear and the preacher posed a question. What would you do if you had no fear? Keep in mind that you would still make a wise decision but you would have no fear in executing it.

If I had absolutely no fear I would attempt all of my best business ideas, especially if I had the funds. I get so many good ideas but most of the time I am fearful that they will not work. I will sometimes talk myself out of things due to some level of fear. I am pursuing many things right now based on wise decisions but they are new and I don’t know what the outcome may be. Therefore I am fearful and hesitating a bit.

It is your turn, if you had no fear what would you do? Think about some of the things that you could do for yourself that fear is keeping you from. Then take it a step farther; what would it take for the fear to be removed?

No fear equals boldness, confidence and faith. No fear means as long as I trust in my God-given wisdom there is no reason not to proceed. No fear means the world looks different, things look possible, and success is within reach.

Day 36 – Developing a Plan is a Key to Success

I have a challenge for you. It is time to develop your 2011 plan. The other day you spent time writing your list that stated this is the last time I… Now that you know what you want to end I want you to focus on what you will build this year.

First let’s break the year up into quarters, the check in dates are March 31, 2011, June 30, 2011, September 30, 2011 and December 31, 2011. I want you to write two goals per quarter that you will work towards for the year. Make sure that the goals are SMART.

  • Specific
  • Measurable
  • Attainable
  • Relevant
  • Time-specific

When setting your goals for 2011 make sure that you clearly identify what you want to achieve. Use the check in dates from above as possible due dates. If the goal requires more than three months then use the check in date to measure your progress and then adjust your plan accordingly.

I think a yearly plan is much better than making resolutions. How many of us actually keep the resolutions? By developing a plan you will set up a process to hold yourself accountable and it will become more real. If you need help with accountability, then find an accountability partner. If one of your goals is to lose weight or exercise, find a friend who has the same goal and work together. Hold each other accountable and encourage each other when things get tough.

If your goals are more detailed you may want to hire a Professional Life Coach to help you implement your plan. One of my 2011 business goals is to bless two people with a Time to Soar Coaching package (a $1349 value). If you are interested in one of the packages, please complete the Are You Coachable quiz and make sure to include your email address. You will be contacted to schedule a free consultation. The selected candidates will be notified by January 31, 2011.

Day 35 – Learning is a Key to Success

I love to learn new things. The problem is that sometimes I jump around to many things. I am a naturally curious person and love to know how things work. A friend called me today to ask me to do her taxes. As I thought about it I realized that I have taken so many courses in so many fields.

To date I have been trained to do taxes by H&R Block, to become a Realtor (just did not take the license exam), hold an Accounting certificate, HTML certificate, Life Coaching Certificate, and Business Writing Certificate. Yes I have learned many things over the years.

Although I did not stay in the career paths for some of those professions, the knowledge has proven to be an asset. Little did I know then that all of these courses would end up becoming a foundation for me as I started and operated my own business.

Constant learning keeps your skills sharp and ensures that you stay in the loop with the latest trends in your field. You can never learn too much. You may not have to take courses all the time; you can also increase your learning through reading, trade associations, conferences and workshops.

Constant learning is a key to success. Never stop seeking knowledge.